"Improving Self Esteem
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The moment you've been waiting for. How to improve your self esteem.

Improving self esteem is necessary if you want to feel great about yourself. There's a lot of advice out there and what I am going to share with you, is what has helped me.

Before we go into improving your self esteem, let's have a look at some of the causes.

• Childhood

When you're young, you're very impressionable. Anything someone tells you, you'll most likely believe. Your friends in school have a big influence on you. As long as they like you, you feel great. The moment something happens and they kick you out of the group, it can be really hard on your sense of self worth.

Family members, during childhood and even beyond that stage in your life, also play a big role in cultivating your self pride. They're the people you turn to when in need and if they're not there for you, it can make you feel really worthless. Especially since they're supposed to be the people who care about you.

• Overprotective parents

When your parents are the overprotective kind, they can make you feel like you can't take care of yourself. They make all your decisions for you and prevent you from doing things like; going on sleep overs or just hanging out with friends. You end up feeling that what you'd like to do doesn't really matter.

Or they do everything for you, like you don't know how to do things for yourself. Now how can you learn to believe you're capable of doing anything, with parents like that.

They don't teach you to make your own decisions or speak for yourself. You're supposed to be seen, not heard.

• Abusive parents

Your parents, or anyone given the task of taking care of you, are supposed to love you no matter what. It's their job. They decided to have you, so they should take care of you. If they're physically or emotionally abusive, they rob you of your self esteem. Being called stupid or told that you won't amount to anything is devastating.

6 Tips For Improving Self Esteem

The way you feel about yourself fluctuates. It depends on the circumstances you find yourself in. So one moment you feel on top of the world and the next you fall down with a loud tomb.

Here's a list of tips to help with improving your self esteem:

• Tip 1: Accepting yourself

The most crucial thing for improving self esteem is accepting yourself. As long as you think you're not worth anything or you're not good enough the way that you are, there's no way you'll improve your self esteem.

So look yourself in the eye every day and say out loud:"I love you [fill in your name], I accept you just the way that you are! At first this may be close to impossible, but keep at it. You might wonder; how could I be improving self esteem doing that, if this is what it takes, I'll never be able to improve my self esteem.

Don't worry! Over time you'll notice it gets easier and it gives such a great feeling.

So please, don't give up!

• Tip 2: Forgiving yourself

Yes that's what it says, forgive yourself. Forgive yourself for listening to those people telling you you're stupid or no good. Forgive yourself for believing them. You're the only one in control of your life, even if it may not seem like that at times.

Whatever shows up in your life was created by YOU, based on the believes you have. So forgive yourself for having those believes.

Again, stand in front of the mirror and say out loud: I forgive you [fill in your name]. This is your level of understanding at this moment in time!

"Be Set Free Fast" is a great way to get rid of limiting believes. Check it out.

• Tip 3: Focus on what you do well

It is said that what you put your attention on, you'll get more of. So focus on what you feel you're good at and you'll notice even more things you're capable of doing.

It's a great way to boost self esteem.

• Tip 4: Involve friends

Ask at least 3 of your friends to make a list of the things they like about you. Ask them to also list what they think you're good at. If you feel you don't have any friends you can trust with this task, ask co-workers, family members, anyone you feel comfortable with.

• Tip 5: Keep track of progress

Gather all the lists and stick them in a notebook or put them wherever you'd like to keep them. If you asked for help through e-mail, make a folder and save the responses there.

Look at the lists as often as you can or feel like. This is a great way for improving self esteem.

• Tip 6: Start a "gratitude" and "feel great about yourself" journal

Every night before you go to sleep, make a list of at least five things you're grateful for and at least one thing you did that day that made you feel great about yourself.

You'll see that there's so much to be grateful for. And that you don't have to wait until you do something out of the ordinary before you can feel great about yourself. It could be cooking a nice meal your family enjoyed, or spending time with your family or finishing your to do list.

There is so much that could make you feel great about yourself and you'll be improving self esteem along the way.

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