"About Mimi
My Journey So Far"

So, you'd like to know more about me. No problem, that's what this site is all about. I hope my story will show you that no matter the circumstances you are in or whatever you've gone through so far, you can feel great about yourself.

Everywhere on this site you can find a piece of my story in a bit more detail. On this page I'll give you a general overall view of what has happened in my life so far.

Now, let's get started.

My name is Mireille Juliette Astha Lepelblad Ogbolu, but please just call me Mimi. I was born in Surinam, South America, but lived most of my life in the Netherlands. In 2005 I moved to Kuwait after falling in love with my husband and giving birth to my first two daughters. Now I have three lovely girls, whom I love very much.

When I was a little girl I was very shy. I didn't have many friends and always wanted to be by myself. As I grew older and hit the teenage years I started to get more and more depressed. I don't think anybody really noticed, because I was always very quiet and alone in my room.

I hated my body. I hated the changes my body was going through, especially all the extra hair that was appearing in places I thought a woman was not supposed to have hair. I thought there was something wrong with me. Even though I was told I was pretty, I believed I would never find anyone who would want to be with me, let alone have kids with me.

When I was about 17 years old, I found out that a big issue for me was not feeling loved. Even though I was not really conscious of it, I found out I had a strong believe my parents didn't love me. I still remember confronting my mother with this information. That was the first time I heard her say she loved me.

A whole new world opened up for me. It may sounds strange, but it was like the sun was shining a bit brighter. I started interacting with people more, and with boys. When I was 18 years old my sister and I became friends with a few boys. At least I thought we were friends until one of them forced me to sleep with him. I felt weak for not being able to make him listen to me saying no, even though I kept repeating it, but on the other hand I was amazed someone even wanted to sleep with me. I was very confused.

"Men are Such Cheaters"

Forgive me for this headline, but you'll understand why I'm saying this soon enough. By the way I don't believe this to be true anymore.

It was very hard for me to be in a relationship. The first real boyfriend I had, cheated on me, although I never really had proof, he was seen holding hands with another girl while I was away for a few months doing my thesis in Biochemistry in England.

A lot happened to me in England. I'll spare you the details, but needless to say I came back to Holland a changed person. I moved out of my mother's house, (my parents divorced when I was 17) and went to two different Universities. I didn't finish either of them.

My second boyfriend cheated on me (what's new), but this time I had proof. First of all he told me he was married with two children, but that he didn't love her. You probably heard that one before. I decided to keep seeing him, because I felt I would never get anybody else and he was a very good talker. But then I found out that I was not the only mistress. The way I found out was interesting though. I felt something was up, so I decided to play this game, where you can ask questions and draw cards and get answers. Well I asked this question: "How can I get more love in my life?". A few minutes into the game I get a phone call. It turned out to be one of his many girlfriends who was going round calling all of the girlfriends she could reach, in an effort to warn us about him. She told me she was very angry with him and that it would be best for me to stop seeing him. But believe it or not I stayed with him a bit longer until it was "over". I don't remember braking up with him.

My third boyfriend cheated on me (I'm sorry if this gets boring) and again I had proof. The woman he was seeing called me and told me all about it. I felt humiliated, but to be honest I knew something was going on, but again choose to ignore the signs. This time I was strong enough to say no. He asked if I could please forgive him and if we could please stay together... hell NO!

I decided right there and then that this was not going to happen to me again. I had enough. I had been reading some self-help books and learning about affirmations and how your thoughts affect your reality. This helped me a lot. I started loving myself and my body more.

By the time I met my husband I was ready to love again. Now, like I said before, we have three gorgeous daughters and we are building a house in Nigeria. My husband is Nigerian. As soon as the house is ready I'll put up some pictures.

What has kept me going through the years were my mother's words. She would always say that all would work out ok and that there was always a solution to a problem. And that the solution would present itself.

"I Found My Purpose"

In December of 2006 I set up this website. It gave me an opportunity to connect to other people who were going through similar things I went through, like low self-esteem and no self-love. Gone are the years of shyness.

I always enjoyed finding out ways of improving myself and improving the way I felt about myself. Another thing I love doing is sharing whatever I've learned with others. Just ask members of my family. They stopped listening to me long ago.

That's where the Internet comes in handy. Anybody who ends up on my website has a choice to either listen to me or click on.

I have found what I call a "great job". Read more about that here.

By the way if you'd like to contact me please go here.

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